I feel like the luckiest person in the world to be here at the Parelli Center. Of course, there are 73 other students here with me that might proclaim that they are actually the lucky ones.
The reality is that we are all so blessed to have this experience with our horses, in a safe, exotically beautiful setting, surrounded by supportive, knowledgable staff.
It’s only Day #3 and I have learned volumes of information regarding the ‘Horse-anality’.
I won’t get all technical and specific with this blog, it’s more like a diary, but the insight gained with just this sliver of recognition into our horses different emotional states of being has helped me to approach my horse through his best level of understanding.
I’ve already witnessed an increase in his respect for me and willingness to try new things. That goes both ways. I have a whole new sense of trust and willingness to follow his lead as well.
We did a very powerful human exercise this morning with a partner. We were each given 3 tasks that we needed to get our partner to accomplish without speaking to one another. It required a lot of trust and observation. I found that I was eager to get the right answer and would offer to move before my partner had completed her directions or instructions.
Then we did it again, but this time the person receiving the instructions had to have their eyes closed the whole time! With my eyes closed I could not anticipate the right answer and had to really tune in and trust my partner to guide me. When it was my turn I actually got my partner to roll up her own pant leg.
The exercise made me aware of how sensitive we really are and if we are clear in our intentions the line of communication is wide open – even without talking or seeing!
One gentleman commented on how he went first with his eyes open and was very direct, matter-of-fact and task oriented. When it was his turn to close his eyes he was tense and nervous. But his partner first shook his hand to let him know where he was and rubbed his shoulders. This put the person with his eyes closed immediately at ease, where he was ready to trust and follow instructions.
This exercise made him realize how task oriented and demanding he is with his horses without ever giving them the incentive to want to follow him.
Hmmm, maybe we should use this training for how we treat people too!